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You Don’t Have To Sleep With Everyone You Meet
A significant portion of all male-female relationships are characterized by mutual sexual attraction. When we meet someone we find attractive, it is natural to think about this person as a potential sexual partner.
People do not need to view their physical attraction to others as an indication of internal debauchery or sinful lust.
The subtle inner confirmation we feel when attracted to another person could not be more natural.
However, the presence of attraction doesn’t always forecast sexual entanglement.
This insight may appear obvious. We don’t have sex with everyone who stimulates us physically or emotionally.
However, it isn’t so obvious why we may choose not to, given the opportunity to engage in consensual intimacy with someone in a private space.
Moral values around sexuality, purity, virginity, family and marriage provide many reasons one might refrain from casual sexual encounters with those they find attractive.
Often though, we mysteriously suspend our adherence to moral considerations and practices when a desire for another is strong enough.
While some people abstain from casual sexual relations with others and base their reasoning on moral principles, this may not be…
